The Missing

Reconnecting with Those Who Have Left the Church

One of the most challenging groups to engage is those who have left the church. Whether they’ve stepped away from church altogether or simply moved to another congregation, it’s essential for the church to reach out with care and intention. While some departures are known—such as a family moving away—many people stop attending without notice. In most cases, their departure isn’t out of malice but due to external life circumstances like health issues or work commitments.

People generally leave for two main reasons:

• Malicious Departure – Some individuals leave due to frustration, hurt, or disagreements—whether with another member, leadership, or church decisions. Scripture encourages us to pursue peace whenever possible. Reaching out to understand their concerns can provide an opportunity for reconciliation and healing.

• External Circumstances – Many leave because of life changes, such as job demands, health challenges, or simply falling out of the habit of attending. Without intentional follow-up, they may drift away unintentionally.

Churches often say, “God loves you, and we do too.” However, when no effort is made to reconnect with those who have left, it can send the unintended message that their value was tied only to their attendance. Reaching out demonstrates genuine care and reminds them they are still an important part of the church family, regardless of their current involvement.